The question of the month

"Does it feel diffrent being married?"

I think I've been asked that question more than a dozen times. I can't remember ever asking any of my recently married friends that question. And, being that Chad and I have been together for four years and we've lived together for two of those years, my automatic response is always, "things are great, but nothing has changed." I was asked that same question again today, and instead of my normal response, I really thought about the question. I soon came to the realization that something has changed between Chad and I. I can't put my finger on exactly what it is, but something about saying, "I do" does intensify your relationship. I know that's the point of marriage but it's hard to discribe what actually changes between a couple. A greater respect? A deeper love? All of the above...

Whatever it is, I LOVE being married and I couldn't ask for a better man to spend the rest of my life with. So, I guess what I am trying to get at is, thank you to the more than a dozen people, who forced me to STOP and THINK!

101 Goals in 1001 Days

Someone I respect recently told me, "Go.For.It! If you have the tenacity, intelligence and determination, what are you waiting for?" Inspried by her "101 in 1001", I've decided to borrow that idea and create a list of my own 101. I am a huge advocate of setting goals, I wouldn't be where I am, if it weren't for goals. So here it is, as of November, 13 2008, here are my goals for the next 1001 days (2.74 years):

*marked in italic when completed

1. Write at least three blogs a week for one month
2. Pitch one new business and win the account
3. Speak in front of a large group with confidence (at least once)
4. Travel to New York
5. Paint at least one room in the house
6. Run a half marathon
7. Read Homer's "Iliad"(front to back)
8. Pay off all credit cards
9. Write my dad "the letter"
10. Take a cooking class with Chad
11. Buy a bike
12. Volunteer at a local charity
13. Take a class to learn something new
14. Bake a cake
15. Grow an herb garden
16. Buy a proffesional digital camera
17. Go to a business mixer, by myself
18. Participate in a sprint triathalon
19. Landscape our back and front yard
20. Add patio furnature to our backyard
21. Do one activity that is completly out of my comfort zone
22. Go to San Francisco again
23. Find a new hobby
24. Buy one piece of great art
25. Visit my grandparents
26. Go on a ski trip
27. Land a client in the New York Times
28. Frame our vows
29. Find one new restaurant client
30. Save at least 20% of our combined income each month
31. Cook a turkey
32. Take an art class
33. Go to church at least twice a month
34. Select one charity to donate time or money to during Christmas
35. Purchase a couch for the living room
36. Attend a social media workshop
37. Go on a trip with my sister
38. Do something special for our one year anniversary
39. Purchase re-useable shopping bags
40. Take a bootcamp class
41. Buy a puppy
42. Organize my closet
43. Decorate at least one room in our house
44. Buy a Mac Notebook
45. Hike the Grand Canyon
46. Make at least two photo albums
47. Go to a drive-in movie with Chad
48. Eat at Salt Cellar
49. Replace lighting in bathrooms
50. Cook a recipe in Barbara Fenzl's cookbook
51. Write a journal entry while in Central Park
52. Watch a great sunset with Chad
53. Go to the Frank Lloyd Wright museum
54. Try to surf
55. Ride the new light rail
56. Go to a Sun's game
57. Mount our television on the wall
58. Rent a library book
59. Go on a NY media tour
60. Use the herbs from my own herb garden
61. Ride our bikes to Old Town
62. Go to at least one great concert
63. Secure a feature article in Phoenix Magazine
64. Get at least one client signed onto a social media plan
65. Get at least 10 people to follow my blog
66. Get a facial
67. Go to a First Friday in downtown phx
68. Attend a play at Gammage
69. Get my scuba certification
70. Go one week without Starbucks
71. Go two weeks without Starbucks
72. Lead EBLU topic
73. In roughly 700 days attempt to become parents
74. Go to Rocky Point
75. Submit artwork for an EBL artshow
76. Ski Snowbowl again
77. Take one great photograph
78. Hang that photograph in our house
79. Attend a comedy show
80. Join a new proffesional dev. group
81. Plant new flowers by the pool
82. Buy a real Christmas tree
83. Workout before work five days in a row
84. Become Senior Account Manager
85. Eat at a sit down restaurant by myself
86. Bake cupcakes
87. Go camping
88. Buy vegetables at the farmers market two weeks in a row
89. Stay at a W Hotel
90. Mentor someone
91. Ride the trolley
92. Go to the Phoenix Art Museum
93. Write a published piece
94. Take a spin class twice a week for a month
95. Enter my time each day for a week (really, how hard is that?! HARD!)
96. Hike Camelback Mt.
97. Learn the ins and outs of Illustrator
98. Collect 10 new business cards/contacts
99. Complete at least 60 of these goals in 365 days
100. Run on the beach
101. Write my mom a thank you letter

"Don't go through life - grow through life." - Jack London

Becoming a Better Writer

10 Steps to Becoming a Better Writer
by Brian Clark (On Copyblogger)

Write.
Write more.
Write even more.
Write even more than that.
Write when you don’t want to.
Write when you do.
Write when you have something to say.
Write when you don’t.
Write every day.
Keep writing.

I couldn't agree more with Mr. Clark and that is exactly why I've created this blog. I am determined to become a better writer, even if it kills me! Mark my word, you will one day be impressed.

Family Owned vs. Big Box Stores

I am a huge supporter of locally owned businesses. Obviously, it would be hypocritical of me to say that I don't also support chains, because I do. They keep our economy thriving and supply jobs to millions of people. With that being said, my shopping experience seems much more fullfiling when I know that my purchase is helping a private owner. This is a good example...

Retailer helping the 'do-it-yourselfers'
by Cathryn Creno - Nov. 8, 2008 12:00 AM

The Arizona Republic

Buying a home might be out right now, but you might have the cash to make improvements to the place you have.
Major upgrades requiring a contractor might give you pause, but a simple faucet upgrade, paint job or switch to energy-efficient lighting probably is manageable Ace Hardware, a fixture in nearly every neighborhood, is benefiting from that trend.
As home construction has declined, so have sales at big-box home-improvement stores.
But Ace Hardware Corp., with its smaller-store format and focus on building long-term relationships with customers who do their own home repairs, reported revenues that were even with the year before in its most recent quarterly earnings statement. And Ace's quarterly net income was up 13.2 percent, to $33.4 million.
Giant retailers Home Depot Inc. and Lowe's Cos. Inc. last quarter both reported declines in both sales and net income. "They are into renovations. We are into home preservation," said Tom Knox, Ace's national director of retail and business development.

Eighty-four-year-old Ace, a cooperative of independent hardware stores that share a brand, buying power and training programs, historically has been successful because of a philosophy of focusing on the wants and needs of customers within a five-mile radius.
Now, in the down housing market, customers new to do-it-yourself projects are coming in .
. The trend is particularly strong in metro Phoenix and other areas hard-hit by the real-estate downturn.
"People here get me what I need, which is much better than a big-box store," said Ryan Lawson, an investment banker who was at an Ace last Saturday to get advice and supplies for painting a closet interior.
Retail analyst Neil Stern, senior partner at McMillan Doolittle LLP in Chicago, says it's no surprise to him that Ace is going strong. "My guess is that the hardware piece, which includes light DIY, remains healthy and will probably be even more so as people opt to fix rather than replace in this economy," Stern said.

Popcorn and horse feed
Many people enjoy browsing the aisles of a hardware store, and the most successful Ace stores capitalize on that.
In metro Phoenix, you can get free bags of popcorn at four Paul's Ace Hardware stores, owned by sisters Julie Buchkowski and Tricia Dauwalder. Free classes on how to feed your horse are offered at two of three Karsten's Ace Hardware stores, owned by David Karsten.
"Each Ace has a personality. Popcorn is our personality," said Buchkowski, whose family has sold hardware for three generations. The family's stores in Tempe, Scottsdale, Gilbert and Fountain Hills are named for her grandfather, Paul Dauwalder.

Karsten's Ace at 28220 N. Tatum Blvd. in Cave Creek is a hub for the horsy, outdoorsy residents in the northern reaches of the Valley. Karsten's Goodyear store also caters to animal lovers, while its Carefree store has a more traditional format.
The Cave Creek store provide free clinics on topics ranging from crafts kids can make at home to the care and feeding of backyard horses. Last Saturday , Megan Wilson, a 14-year-old Cactus Shadows High School freshman, was in the Cave Creek Karsten's to check out listings of horses and tack for sale on the store bulletin board. Rural Farm Broadcasting, a satellite station, was playing on a television nearby.
"I like coming in here," said Wilson, who has been riding horses since age 7 and whose family owns four horses. "I've been to a couple clinics here. 'How to keep weight on your horse' was really good."

Foreclosure fixer-uppers
In southwest Phoenix, Quinton Reeves, who opened Reeves Ace Hardware at 7620 W. Lower Buckeye Road in August, has found a niche among new residents of the area who have purchased foreclosure homes.
"They come in and say, 'I got a great deal, but it has holes in the walls,'" Reeves said. Reeves was the operations manager for an air-conditioner-manufacturing company before he and his father put together $1 million to start the Ace store.
He expects to have $1.4 million in sales his first year and sales growth of 10 to 15 percent annually the next several years.

The business model
Ace is not a franchiser. The company is owned collectively by its store owners. Each owner is awarded private shares of Ace according to how much they spend on Ace-brand products each year.
Before a potential owner hangs an Ace Hardware sign in front of a store, the company does a background and financial investigation. Ace requires potential owners to show they have at least $250,000 to invest before they can join the company.
One fan of Ace is Stacy Mitchell, the Maine-based author of Big Box Swindle: The True Cost of Mega-Retailers and the Fight for America's Independent Business.
"From my perspective, it's an ideal combination," she said.
Reach the reporter at cathryn.creno@arizonarepublic.com or

The first of November

Every girl fantasizes about her wedding throughout most of her childhood. When that day arrived for me, a week ago today, it was greater than anything I'd ever anticipated. Everything flowed so organically, it was SO perfect. I am blessed with true love.






"You are a part of me, Chad, and I am a part of you. I will love every day of my life with you by my side – experiencing it all. You are my first true love. You are my last."

(PS. If you need assistance writing your vows, Melanie McBride is a brilliant writer and has a way with words! It's too bad she isn't able to help me with this blog. It would be a heck of a lot more interesting!)

Da Nile...

Some would say that I am a "food whore!" I don't disagree, my favorite pastime is trying new restaurants, but that got us in trouble tonight...

Following Lakeside Live, Shirley and I were trying to determine where we should grab a bite to eat. Driving up Scottsdale Road and headed towards my house we decide to go to Papago Brewery. As we pull up to Papago we noticed it was packed and we weren't feeling that scene. Looking for plan b, we see this little Mediterranean restaurant called, The Nile. Feeling a bit adventurous, we figure we'd give it a whirl. Our first hint should have been that there was only two other people in the whole restaurant.

Shortly after being sat, the owner brought us complimentary hummus plate which was very good. To be honest, the food was good, but that really isn't the point of this posting.

Midway into a conversation, Shirley bursts out in laughter. With my back to the kitchen, I turn around to see what she is laughing about. There was a women in a very reveiling gold outfit--tassels included! Being that we were in a Mediterranean restaurant it didn't seem that odd for there to be a belly dancer, until I caught glimps of the five-foot sword she was carrying.

Mind you, this chick was sporting a hugh WT butterfly tattoo on her lower back and really should not have been wearing that outfit, if you know what I mean! Before Shirley and I know it, she is balancing the five-foot sword on her head and gliding in our direction (aahhh!). Trying to pull it together, the two of us are practically crying we are laughing so hard. Let me tell you, it's not fun to inhale a mouthful of rice!

Realizing the other table had tipped the dancer, we felt obligated to do the same. Little did I know, I was going to be required to stick the money in her skirt as she shook her hips-ughh! At that very second, I couldn't remember if I was at Skin Cabaret or in a dining establishment! After receiving our "private dance" she says, "if you stick around, you'll see me eat fire!" Say what?!

The music FINALLY stops and there is no sign of the dancer. Just as we think we can escape, the owner comes by our table and offers us a complimentary Baklava, that his wife had just made. To avoid being disrespectful, we agreed to a piece.

All of a sudden the lights begin to dim and Shirley and I realize that we are about to witness something special. The dancer comes to our table once again, but this time she has two burning sticks in her mouth. After seductively spreading fire across her arms and stomach, she looks at us and says, "That was hot!" Ewww… I think she may have enjoyed that a little too much!

Two hours later, I’m now left with a stomach ache and traumatizing visuals. I think we both learned something tonight, when in 'Da Nile', chose pizza for dinner! Don't opt for a strip mall Mediterannian restaurant. And, if you do, make sure it's take-out!